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Would love help on how to help my students. I have one boy who has ADHD coupled with a mood disorder. He is very resistant to opening up.

When I said during my childs meltdown -My 12 yo daughter ...We need a break and come back to this after we both calm down. I wouldnt dare say the exact words stated in this webinar because it would sound condescending i think, either way my daughter just pointed ger figure at me and said what is this all about , omg who are youwhy are you trying to be somebody else. Which is her main line i hear daily. But I know ive been caught in yhe struggle in the past, calming down is seems obvious.

u care about children all over the world, right? i hope u did not forget about the children of Palestine ❤❤🤍🤍💚💚🖤🖤 and i appreciate the info 😊

Does this apply to husbands, too 😬

Thnx for advice..❤

how old should a child be to be able to say what they are feeling? my nephew knows how to make faces for each emotion and can tell what each emotion is when pictures are shown but He does not tell when he is sad, angry, happy. even when we ask him how he is feeling? he says nothing.

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Kiddo that thinks he's always right...and argues about everything. Most situations he has a negative perspective and reaction.

My parent fights with bad language and loud voice. I am 20 year boy and I seeing this from my childhood. The problem is I feel embarrassed to get out of my house and face people. What should I do? I even can't tell thoughts coming in my mind due to their relationship.

Work is the antidote of a sick characture??

Finally at end of video we learn

My stepdaughters don't know what consequences are. They always get what they want and if they don't get it when they want it, automatically makes my partner the bad parent and they don't hold back in saying it loud and clear regardless of who's around. I always tell him they need to have consequences for their bad actions or behavior but he's a softy he lacks all sorts of authority when it comes to his daughters and they both know this, being in this situation is exhausting. The mom insists in saying she does whatever those girls want and there's the problem that we have absolutely no say in.

Thanks Nicholeen ❤

I have been watching your RUclips videos and listened to your audio book. My 12 year old son has too and my husband. We have been practicing the principles for a few months with ups and downs. This video is spot on with how my son is going through puberty and sleeping more than eating and drinking water has always been a struggle so he is especially dehydrated after going on hikes. He has ADHD, high functioning autism and OCD. I watched your video on ADHD and have been hoping we could continue putting the principals in practice instead of medication. It's been difficult, I feel like I am always reminding him of daily responsibilities and I have trouble with my calm at times. I especially lost my cool yesterday and exploded with lots of screaming. I apologized and explained how embarrassed I was for my reaction and we talked about how we should have done things differently. I am recovering from breast cancer so I have trouble with anxiety and get triggered by his behavior because he's constantly fidgeting and ignoring his homeschooling assignments, running around randomly too. I am doing my best and do not want to make excuses for my behavior. I do my best to make efforts each day to stick with the program. I would love some tips to keep pushing through the tough times and keeping on track and/ or a video on how to reset after having trouble with maintaining calm. Thank you.

Nicholeen, When a child gets overwhelmed and escalated or grows the sense of being treated unfairly because the parent gets what they want and they don't then disagreeing appropriately may go out the window and they may talk back or say no to what the parent wants from them. Trust me, I mumbled at my parents on numerous occasions back when I was an autistic child and on rare occasions that risked them threatening to pull the belt out and start whippin` butt. Never use a child's respect as a license to provoke their anguish nor dictate their response when they are angry nor dictate what should or should not cause them anguish. Refuse to argue with a child. Give the child time and space to process and deescalate. Be consistent and model what you want to see the child be like. And ultimately, that child might begin to come back around to you.

The drop the subject part. Wondering if some of the neuro diverse teens you fostered found that the hardest good habit to learn? It goes so against the grain for strong willed kids, doesn't it.

In 1941, Nazi Germany invaded the USSR. After an area was taken by the Wehrmacht, the Germans deployed the Einstatsgruppen. This was a special branch of the SS with a specific mission involving Soviet Officials, Intellectuals and most notably Jews (adults and children), which were rounded up with the assistance of Heer and Waffen SS forces. These were taken to a field at gunpoint, given shovels, made to dig trenches and were then lined up by the trench and were shot, their bodies falling into the pit. They'd continue shooting until the trench was full, then they'd repeat the process until they disposed of the undesirables. In total they killed 2,000,000 people. There were about 3,000 soldiers in the Einstatsgruppen. They were selected for their tasks, but this was a voluntary position. It was possible to transfer out to another posting and a few did. Most did not. You'd expect them all to be raving Nazi fanatics, raving antisemites or sadists. But post war interviews and evaluations with former members of these killing squads found that this was not the case. They were remarkably normal, men with mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, lovers and friends. So why did they do this? Simple. They saw it as their duty to do the task they were given. The late Dr. Bob Altemeyer (University of Manitoba) wrote the book on the psychology of Authoritarianism. Most people think of the leaders of an authoritarian regime, but in truth just as important are the Authoritarian Follower followers. Among other things is that they have a high degree of respect for those in positions of legitimate authority, as well as uncriticality and conventionalism. Be very wary of those who stress the importance of "Understanding Authority".

My 8-year-old hasn't been diagnosed with A.D.H.D., but the specific criteria aligns with the DSM-5-TR. Said child screams...."Nooooo!!! I don't want to!!!", also whenever told "not right now", after being told 20 times a morning that "we are not going to the park (or whatever)". He can not handle being told no, but acts like his entire world is just over...covers up, cries, and yells. He is such a vocal guy, always yelling...like always. Trying to help him understand ways to regulate his emotions, but my goodness. Gotta find some healthier coping strategies to regulate emotions.

Such great advice! I’m new to your teachings and am curious if you’ve talked about reconnecting with a teen after it seems you’ve lost their heart and they’ve pulled away. My daughter just turned 16 and we had a great relationship up until about one year ago after she did some sneaky stuff with her phone. Started a friendship with someone online and hid this secret. Sigh….. Thank you

This is extremely helpful! Thank you!!

I wish we could just hire you 😂 I’m sure you have heard that many times. my five children are really draining my husband and myself lately. And my 10 year old really has a back talking problem. We can’t even get him to see he is doing it as he believes everyone back talks. And even attempting to explain it to him causes him to get more argumentative and defensive.

I think language has a huge roel in how we guide our children and hve them come up with appropriate rewards and consequenses, or lifes lessons too. We can 'correct' all we like.. but if we speak form the heart nad use NON VIOLENT communictaion and traning methods too, this allows us to speak more from the heart. When I was a teen and I was 'corrected'... I rebeeled... When I was heard, validated and teh guided, taht made all the difference...

With the children you fostered, how did you ensure that your own children were as safe as they could be? This is not intended as a judgment, but you are clearly a very responsible parent versus having done it for selfish reasons. I’m just curious.

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This was extremely helpful! I’ve been going about it all wrong 🤦🏾‍♀️

I am so thankful for this video and all the strategies you teach!😊 It is literally changing our home. ❤

My daughtet run away when she was 15 and now when she's 18 she run aqay again and I am letting her go now even she is in situation that I didn't expected due to human trafficking but I can't do anything about it I always pray for her to change her mind and heart

My son refuses to complete daily tasks such as making sure his room is clean, personal hygiene and caring for our pets.

Did Spencer do anything to support James in that moment? Did he engage with James in any way?

Sad it’s a blame game ❤❤❤❤kids learn respect and empathy 0-5

Every parent needs this course.. I'm blown away, what a great resource!

Diligent & consistent Pre teach proper behavior Point towards calmness Skills for success Don’t mock your children Parents shouldn’t power struggle Don’t take things personal

I needed this video!

Videos like this makes me cringe. We are deliberately trying to make everything a syndrome, denying basic normal children behavior that tiny humans have experienced everywhere, in every time. It's the history of the world. They will eventually grow out of it, we just need to be firm and loving. Videos like this are really dangerous in the hands of stressed out parents. Engage with them, give them interests, your children are ok. It's just really hard being a parent and we need to embrace that without rushing to find syntoms and syndroms which we can magically cure with the right "parenting trick." it's SUPPOSED to be hard😂 embrace THAT. i will add that there are surely some good advice in this video, some of it us just common sense. You got this, Love from Italy

Wait isn't the ones who wants the control are the parents, we grow up in a generation were parents wants to control every aspect of our lives, they were the ones that keep repeating " my way or the highway" 😅

Have a 2 year old and she dzt listern at all

I’m here to learn how to reparent myself. I’ve always been a bit shy, but it was the most intense when I was a toddler. I’ve been dealing with toxic shame, guilt, fear, a victim mentality, and several narcissistic traits for the past 15 years. Thank you for your insight ❤

I do this! It still dsnt work

Teenagers of 17 years to 23 need to be taught a lesson.

Personal attack on me. Dad is a push over and gives in constantly but when I am the discipline, she is downright NASTY to me and the only other person I have seen her be this way to is her teacher who has in the past few months has also cracked down because she has given her tons of grace. Now that she has consequences... She is so bad.

I really appreciate the time you put into these videos, thank you ❤

IMPRESSIVE CLARITY of presentation! BrillianT, genius material and SUPERB presentation: short snd to the point every single time! I am a big fan!

BRILLIANT woman! The CLEAREST, the most practical and EFFECTIVE steps to master calm parenting and build calm, loving relationships.

There is an unhealthy etiquette that has developed that goes past the boundaries of safety and security that law provides.

What if no consequence even the extra chore works with your ODD child

Love the advice but these people so out of touch with reality, most households now uh days have two working parents. Kids spend most the day at school and after school programs or babysitters. So your tell me in the four hour window I have at home with my family because this government is trash and we all work to much for practically nothing but food and a roof over our head, your telling me I got to do some 24hr course and other nonsense. I bet my kids would listen better if they wasn't being raised by the school system and daycare centers and actually felt like they was in a family. Everyones always working and it's fuckin ridiculous. They system is destroying family values and family time and trying to replace it with individualism and self obsession so we can all be good little workers and pay taxes. They destroyed the family dynamics and they did it to the black community first and now everyone else by allowing women in the work force to double tax income as if it was a positive thing for women to start working 40hrs a week and abandoning they kids to the system in pursuit of income greed and self

Parenting expert?

Thank you this really helps with my dismissive 15 and 17 year old boys